Tuesday, November 27, 2012

Our beloved friend, Stover

STOVER
September 3, 2001 - November 23, 2012
 

On Thanksgiving Day, we learned our beloved dog's time with us was over.  Stover was our only "child" for nearly eleven years.  We learned many lessons of life from our furry red friend.

What an incredible adventure we've had with him.  Many know the experience of transporting their "family" with them across international borders.  Stover, being 30 lbs. was not able to have the luxury of flying in the cabin with us, so his flight was in the cargo.  But what brave little creatures they are - adapting and flexing to whatever the situation brings them.

We've had the privilege of having our little guy with us the two years we've lived in Cuenca.  What a comfort he has been as we too, have adjusted and transitioned to living internationally.  And what a gift to have him here with us.

Stover had more friends than we did.  Everyone who kept him during our travels came to love him.  When we lived in the US, strangers often stopped us on our mountain hikes and in parks to meet this charming enthusiastic "people dog."  Frequently, we gave the testimony of God's gift and love through Stover.  Unconditional love is completely disarming!

Stover's been to nursing homes with me when I gave concerts and touched the hearts of many elderly with his love.  One of my favorite memories was when one of the nurses picked Stover up and put him in the lap of an elderly gentleman.  As I looked over in their direction, I saw them looking face to face and the man loving every minute of it.

It all began 11 years ago for us, when we talked about getting a dog.  We had already experienced the sorrow of losing a beloved cat, Bilbo (short for Bilbo Baggins from the Hobbit).  And what a cat too!

We prayed that God would give us His choice for a dog. And He gave us the perfect match for us!

In May of 2002, I was at a grocery store in Asheville, North Carolina.  Every Thursday, a shelter would set up right outside their doors as a adoption center for those coming to shop.  Naturally, each week I would stop and visit the animals - just curious to see who had arrived that day.

Yet came this one particular day... I was coming out of the store, with my hands occupied with grocery bags.  The shelter had just arrived to set up for the day and she was getting the carriers out of the vehicle - ready to set up in animal crates.

My eyes immediately saw a dog being inspected by two ladies, who obviously had asked permission to get him out of his carrier.

It was love at first sight.

Gary likes shelties - I love golden retrievers.  However, having a golden was definitely, too much dog for us - more than we really wanted.

But this dog.  He was kind of a mix of both those breeds and a little of collie.

Yet there was something about him.  And I thought to myself, "These ladies probably want this dog..." the next moment, they put him back in the crate.

Now was my chance.  I sat down the groceries on the courtyard, and out of the carrier came what was soon to be our dog!

He was a little sad looking, maybe scared.  Guess I would be too if I had been abandoned.  As I was studying him though, one of those ladies came over and kneeled down besides me.  Her words to me are what I shall never forget:  "I know dogs and I want to tell you, this is a good dog!  I would take him myself, but I already have three dogs!  Yes, this is a good dog!"

That's all the confirmation I needed.  Immediately I went to the person in charge of adoption and said, "I want this dog - but I need to call my husband first and get him to see him!"

Because I had made friends with her over the months, she in a way, knew me.  Somehow she knew we were a perfect match and she said, "I'll hold him for you!"

I called Gary and after a business meeting, he went to the place where they had the shelter set up.  I had not described Stover to him at all.  By this time, Stover was in a pen with other dogs.  Gary however, (I wasn't there) was drawn to Stover - perhaps Stover let him know, "It's me, it's me!  I'm the one!"  Then of course, it was confirmed by our shelter friend, that he was the right dog.

He called me and said, "We've just adopted a dog!"

In thinking upon a name for him, nothing seemed right until the "light went on" to name him my maiden name, Stover!  It just had the perfect "ring" to it.  Sounded good too, when calling for him, "Sto.......verrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!"  But Stover needed a complete name too.  Theodore seemed perfect for the first name because it means, "God's gift."

"Russell Stover" is the candy company's name.  When I was in high school, there was a Russell Stover candy store across the street.  The question, "Are you related to Russell Stover candy people?" was asked numerous times.  And since Stover was SO sweet - giving him the name Russell along with my maiden name seemed appropriate.

We did all the usual "stuff" with Stover - shots, having him neutered, and then obedience school!  And was he ever a natural - his temperament leaned towards wanting to please his masters. So he was pretty good at obedience!

Through the years we hiked with him in the beautiful Blue Ridge Mountains of  North Carolina.  Stover enjoyed people so much - he loved to meet and greet people  Because of him, we made new friends!  He also entertained them with his obedience tricks!

Like all who have loved their pets, we have many stories of our life with him and his with us - wonderful, wonderful memories - and no regrets!

During Stover's short illness of almost 3 weeks, he kept his loving, sweet demeanor - wanting to please us.  With him, we had a great love.  And we are grateful to have had him for these beautiful 11 years.  When it came time for Stover to go, of course, we cried and said our goodbyes. 

Then there was the question "Where could we bury him?

The night before the vet was coming to our apartment to put him down (Stover could not have made it one more day - he was so sick!), we called our dear friend of two years now, Tania, of Hotel Inca Real.  One of her family members owns property in the Cajas.  It seemed to be the perfect place to lay our beloved to rest.  She told us she would take care of it and that she did!

It was all arranged.  The vet came a little after 8:00 a.m. We had our last moments with Stover, then proceeded to the Cajas.  Two of our American friends joined us, Mike and Lawrence - Mike graciously drove us to the Cajas.

Upon our arrival, we were greeted by those who knew of the arrangement.  We were led to Stover's burial spot.  Everyone so kind.  Enrique lovingly dug his grave.

And there we laid Stover in his special place.

Below are the pictures we want to share where our beloved friend and family member is privileged to be buried.  It seemed so fitting - for as a family, we always loved the mountains and Stover had been on so many hikes with us.

Again, we are SO grateful to have been blessed with our precious Stover.  And we are so grateful for all of his friends and our loved ones who knew and loved him, and took care of him.  There are so many.  

These are memories which can never, ever be taken from us.

We love you, Stover!


 




 
 
The Gate you go through and right after is Stover's grave
 
 
 
 
 


 Stover's famous looks
 
Theodore Russell Stover Gaither
 
Stover, we will miss you - thank you for 11 wonderful years!

Saturday, November 17, 2012


                     Legal Update

My interest in real estate was recently reawakened as I pondered how to remove more of my shrinking next egg from the devaluing US dollar. “Quantitive easing- unlimited” means the dollar will continue to lose value, robbing savers of their life’s work and retirement income. A 600 square foot terrace with unobstructed views lured us toward the purchase of an investment condo near the historic district.

Legal questions raced through my mind on topics ranging from LLC’s and taxes to domestic help. So, I’ll add to my previous musings with an update.

LLC’s here are much like in the US. Only instead of forming one on line in an hour, several complexities arise. The advantages of avoidance of reporting to the US Treasury as a financial instrument and transferring shares rather than real estate were offset by rules for Ecuadoran taxes and reporting.

An annual tax return prepared by an accountant is minor compared to the 25% tax rate on the first dollar earned!  An LLC must also report property at full value on real estate purchases and sales, causing tax problems for private sellers and capital gains on most properties.

The law requires unanimous consent by all shareholders to sell shares, raise capital or close the company. Gotta catch everyone in a simultaneous good mood!       Or write side agreements.

Domestic help is considered an employee, requiring full benefits, unless one of the following contract requirements is not met:

1.       Payment for services
2.       Supervision by employer
3.       Dependence (setting days for work)

So, you may want to allow your maid or other help to set their own day(s) for work. And since a judge is required to rule in the favor of labor in any ambiguity, write a simple contract stating the person chooses their own day of work. Be businesslike initially…then be generous at your discretion later.

What are the required benefits?  Social security (health insurance, etc) at 20.55% (employer pays 11.15%), 13th month of pay, 14th month of pay, 15 days of vacation, and 8.5% reserve fund after 12 months. They add up to nearly 40% of base pay. Minimum wage is now $280 per month. And not paying benefits is now a felony!      Yes, jail is a possibility!

Most employees and independent contractor s assume you will pay bus fare and lunch.

See my previous postings on legal issues. The prior post on labor law/ maids is now inaccurate.

As always, get multiple opinions on these issues. They are a moving target. And I am always fallible!

                 Still learning,     Gary

Saturday, October 27, 2012

Blog Summary

                                        Summary of Two Years in Blog

Newcomers and potential Cuenanos are frequently asking questions that are covered in our blog. So here is a summary of some topics covered:

              1. Cultural Adjustments for Living in Cuenca
              2. Real Estate: Rent vs Purchase
              3. Legal and Cedula
              4. Cargo
              5. Travel in Ecuador
              6. Household Budget
              7. International Taxation for US Expats
              8. Ecuador Taxation
              9. Spanish
             10. Medical Tourism
             11. Health Insurance
             12. Guayaquil
             13. Banos de Agua Santa
             14. Cotacachi
             15. Villacamba

 The complete Table of Contents may be seen by scrolling down our blog. Look on the right side.
            
Always check with multiple sources. Remember requirements are constantly changing!

      Come and find yourself in Ecuador    Enjoy your dreams!

                     Rejoicing in Cuenca,

                              Gary & Sue Gaither

Saturday, October 20, 2012

SOLCA Birthday Party

October 5, 2012 Elisa (our co-chairman) of the 2nd annual Color Purple Event and I had the privilege of attending a "Quince Anos" birthday party held for those young ladies and young men who were turning 15.  Ecuador's "Quince Anos" is equivalent to the American "Sweet Sixteen."  The fiesta included young people who are currently in treatment or have been treated for cancer in the past. 

It was quite a party.  As you will see from the pictures below, first there was an empty room, then began filling up family by family, person by person until it was full!  Balloons, colors, festive atmostphere was everywhere.  The guests of honor were upstairs getting dressed into formal attire - almost like it was a prom!

Before they walked down the stairs with escorts to take their reserved seating, the lady voluteers of SOLCA all sang a song.  Elisa interpreted for me of what they singing.  It was a song giving praise to God, thanking for His love, and that He is the One who heals.

A prayer was offered by one of the volunteers and with that, the procession began.  Beautiful young people in their processional with smiles of joy as the crowd admired and cheered them on!

Then here they come...down the stairs with escorts and led to their honored seats.  A festive clown was the emcee of the birthday fare.

Once into the hall filled with people, balloons and the smell of popcorn, they were given a welcome and birthday cheer.  A ceremony proceeded, almost like a wedding!  They toasted their 15th birthday with juice in a goblet and asked to dance the birthday waltz. 

The most touching part of their ceremony was when they asked each young person by name, to come forward with their partner or family member.  At that time they announced whom they had chosen as one who has especially been helpful or special to them during their treatment.  Sometimes it was a family member and sometimes it was a nurse or volunteer.  A garter was placed on their leg (just like in a wedding) to represent that special bond.

As you will see from the pictures below, it was a festive day for not only those turning 15, but for everyone who attended.  All were invited - even the younger children in SOLCA currently receiving chemo treatment.  They were brought into the hall with the IVs and a nurse to see that all was going well for them. 

It was a special day for them and for all of us who attended. 

And last Thursday, October 11th, we held our 2nd annual Color Purple Event.  We will be writing about this sometime next week with pictures!  Professional photographers graciously gave their time and film for the event so we are looking forward to seeing what all they captured.  We will give a full report of all that took place and the gift we will able to give SOLCA!

Enjoy the pictures from the birthday party! 
 
Blessings,

Sue Gaither

 









 




Monday, September 24, 2012

El Evento Color Purpura

                               Color Purple Event II

     October 11 we will host the second annual El Evento Color Purpura.

    It has grown considerably this year form a women's luncheon to a semi-formal dinner for all. Tickets are now $20, representing a first class Cena meal.
Our speakers include Dr Avarado, Director of SOLCA, the children's cancer hospital.
"The Band of Doctors" will play to conclude our program.
    Our four sponsors are providing free promotion from Unsion Television (100 spots), La Famila Radio, El Tiempo newspaper and Arco Language Institute .
    We hope to sell out the 250 seats and obtain donations from our friends in the US. Twenty dollars goes a long way here in Ecuador. Tickets are available at Villa San Carlos, Hotel Inca Real, and El Tiempo
All net proceeds go the SOLCA for the benefit of children and their families. Many are so poor that they cannot afford the bus fare to visit their children in the hospital!
    Sue has written a special song for suffering children. She will play and sing it during the event. Gary will close with a short devotion. (The song is below if you desire to listen)
    Visit our Color Purple Event blog: http://thecolorpurpleevent.blogspot.com for photos, Sue's children song and a link to donate (US Charitable deduction).
 "You Have Friends" written by Sue
!Hasta las Jueves, 11 de Octubre a siete de noche!


      
     

Thursday, September 20, 2012

Cell Phone Number Changes


 
                       Ecuador Cell Phone Number Changes
 
Did I read the Claro text correctly?    New cell phones may run out of phone numbers.
Sounds like all cell phone numbers will change at the end of September.

Well, our friend Keith clarified with an email today:

To make a call to a phone number in Ecuador starting September 30, 2012:

   BEFORE September 30, 2012 (9 digit cell phone numbers)

   Beginning September 30, 2012 (10 digit cell phone numbers)


 ****For example the cell number 09 462 1234 becomes 099 462 1234 ***

 
How to make a call from abroad to a phone number?

   BEFORE September 30, 2012 (11 digits)

   Beginning September 30, 2012 (12 digits)
 
So let's copy down all our phone numbers stored in our cell phones!

Tuesday, September 18, 2012

Radioman Returns to Cuenca

                                                       Radioman
                       http://radiomanridestheworld.com/ride-videos     
          
Sunday we enjoyed the return of our friend Mark Donham, Radioman, on his second South American tour. We saw him in March, after his US and Central American tours. Visit our March post for details.

Mark recently completed a tour of India, including riding the highest auto road in the world at 18,340 feet in the Himalayas on a rented Royal Infield bike. What happens when the bike blows an engine in the middle of nowhere? Read his blog for the exciting adventure:    http://radiomanridestheworld.com/

 His blog has grown from 500,000 hits to 850,000 since we saw him last!

The link on top will entertain you with videos and musical exploration.

Now Mark is touring south and planning a boat trip to Antartica. He future plans are yielded to the Lord's leading.   Total freedom!